Here is what I’ve decided to do, and it seems to really create a sense of balance in the way I feel and the way I look. I don’t have a washboard stomach or totally firm arms and legs. I’m all over, a little soft. In the past I may have resented that and looked at myself as a failure or incompetent. Something good that the “thirty something’s” have brought me is a new sense of belonging. I feel like I belong right where I am. Here are just a few things I contribute that too.
1. SPIRITUALITY, Putting God first in my life has become the most important virtue I embrace. In the beginning of my spiritual growth, a few minutes a day seemed suffice. However, it seemed that the more God I got, the more I wanted. Eventually, my life became in essence a constant state of gratitude and worship. I am in a constant state of thankfulness, even when things aren’t perfect. Even when I don’t feel up to par, I look for ways to be grateful, and that includes being thankful for the amazing body I have right now.
2. FAMILY, making sure that next to God, my family gets my attention. It is really easy to get caught up in my duties of being a mother that I forget to enjoy it. If I make it a point to enjoy my children early in the day by reading a story or playing a game or just goofing around on the floor, I can have peace knowing that I have met their needs emotionally and in turn I am satisfied. There is nothing like a mothers “guilt” lingering over our heads reminding us that we need to spend more quality time with our children. If we remember to do it early, we won’t have to deal with the guilt of not doing it at all.
3. TIME MANAGEMENT, I could go on and on in detail about the other attributes of my life right now, but what it all boils down to is how well I manage the most expensive commodity I own, TIME! Remembering to shop ahead of time and prepare meal ideas for the week, and organizing myself on the weekend always helps me to keep my tasks on point. Keeping a record of where my time is spent gives me an accurate understanding of my priorities and helps me to shift things around when something starts to take too much of my time.
So looking at our health from a balanced perspective will increase our ability to appreciate where we are and not have us in a constant state of dissatisfaction. Making your best attempt to plan your meals in advance, keeping fresh ingredients as the main source of your food, and giving yourself a break are very valuable ways to create a harmonious sense of belonging. Try not to have an all or nothing attitude. Remember that the little things count big. Even a walk a few times a week is better than nothing. Slowly increase the duration and frequency of your walks. Instead of telling yourself you can’t have something, tell yourself what you can have. Focus on the good and never the bad. Be a better you, but love that you are today. Make constant progress, even if it is five steps forward and two steps back. Just keep going.